My sister works as a teacher. Her husband has been unemployed for four months. He made about 65% of their income. This holiday season she has made some excellent decisions.
No holiday cards are being mailed.
She is not participating in the secret santa at work.
She also opted out of the cookie exchange.
They are not giving gifts to adults. This leaves gifts to my girls and their one nephew.
I even told her she could cut back on the gifts to the girls.
Would you have the strength to do the same in a similar situation?
Would you do the same?
November 23rd, 2011 at 03:59 am
November 23rd, 2011 at 04:11 am 1322021485
We do not even buy gifts for each other.
We do make an exception and buy blank shirts for our two closest nieces. We screenprint them ourselves and the blank shirts cost about $4 each.
Christmas Day we contribute to the family meal - usually a pesto pasta salad or a dessert.
That is all.
November 23rd, 2011 at 04:13 am 1322021607
November 23rd, 2011 at 04:48 am 1322023699
I guess we're facing something similar, but DH is adamant about cards and certain foods. And about 60% of our stuff was bought months ago--just DD's stuff left.
Yes, that is Swagbucks TV you hear in the background as I try to amass enough for her Kindle! Good luck to your sister. Strength of character must run in your family!
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November 23rd, 2011 at 07:03 am 1322031802
And don't forget, there are always non-monetary gifts of your time. Right now my niece wants cooking lessons more than anything else.
November 23rd, 2011 at 03:12 pm 1322061141
I think the lack of buying gifts, for my sister, is also a way to reduce her stress level. It is stressful to work with 1st graders, have your husband unemployed and possibly be facing a relocation. Her DH has had two different interviews out of state...he is one of two being considered for the job.
November 23rd, 2011 at 04:26 pm 1322065584
If it really makes your heart happy to do all of these things, and you can afford it, that is fine. I just see people going into debt and having nervous breakdowns, in general. That's what we opt out of. (& then they don't have the common sense to scale it back in unemployment or hard times - because the holiday spirit has been so taken over by retail marketing). I also believe experiences like volunteering in a shelter or soup kitchen are very humbling when people are going through hard times. It's helpful to realize A - you could be way worse off and B - a true reminder of the spirit of the holidays, and that you can make a positive difference without spending money that you don't have.
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