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Frustrating Friend

July 16th, 2014 at 07:14 am

Ugh. My friend again. I'm not really frustrated. I have learned that this friend just doesn't get it. So I listen and try to offer some advice. Which she never takes!

Since I have a blog, I like to pass on the line of thinking others have. Maybe someone will learn something.

Friend and her husband own a Honda Accord (car) and a Honda Ridgeline truck. The latter purchased in the last year or year and a half. Just yesterday they traveled 14 hours to their new home in the Ridgeline. She texted me how uncomfortable it was.

She wants to get rid of the Ridgeline because it cost gas more gas to drive than her Accord, her husband will be commuting 40 minutes to and from work, it is going to need new timing belt, serpentine belt, and brakes. She thinks it makes better sense to get a lease with an option to buy, so they don't need to worry about mileage.

I mentioned the Honda van, Odyssey, might be more comfortable for long trips and get a little better gas mileage. Since that would be the car her husband would drive, she said no because 'he needs something more manly'!

Do you see all the problems with her reasoning? She is getting rid of a vehicle because it is uncomfortable for long road trips, but yet owns a car that is likely more comfortable. The truck is due for routine maintenance based on mileage. ALL cars need maintenance. She suddenly needs a better gas mileage car because of the commute. The gas mileage was known when they purchased the vehicle. And they have a car, they could use for the commute instead.

Oh, and they are currently upside down on the truck loan. Once she told me that, I said if it were me I would keep the truck and drive the car for a trip back to their home state or rent a vehicle.

This is a trend of theirs...buying cars that don't have good track records, getting slammed by maintenance, deciding leases are better, getting Honda lease and then decided to buy the Ridgeline. Now basic maintenance and gas costs are moving them to buy another vehicle even though they are upside down.

Ack. Frustrated again, writing it out! I wish she would learn to set some money aside for maintenance and repairs at least.

9 Responses to “Frustrating Friend”

  1. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    "Oh, no, the new car is out of gas. Guess we'll have to go buy a new one."

  2. My English Castle Says:

    Joan's making me laugh. I think sometimes cars are bought for the life people wish they had rather than the one they actually have. Don't give up on her, though. One of my friends who is is a newly tighter budget who used to roll her eyes at my Walgreen's rewards and grocery loyalty card has just confessed she'll need to learn some of my budget "tricks."

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    @Joan, that is practically what I hear when I talk to her!

    @MEC, I will try not to give up. Her husband got a huge raise and promotion to make this move, I just hope they don't fritter the new found wealth on cars.

  4. Buendia Says:

    I have a friend who bought a new car, then sold it less than a year later because it didn't have leather seats! Seriously?!!

  5. creditcardfree Says:

    @buendia, I suppose she didn't notice that when she bought it?!

  6. Buendia Says:

    I know! She's married to my friend who I call Bad Money Man.

  7. rob62521 Says:

    Some folks don't want to learn. Sad, but true.

  8. SecretarySaving Says:

    It's one of those situations where you have to love them but not agree with their decisions. With you being so money wise I can see that you want to help and have great suggestions. Your friend just isn't ready. I understand your frustration.

  9. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Very frustrating. All you can do is be there when she is ready to listen - if that time ever comes.

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